****Warning, this blog will more than likely offend you****
I am sure you all have seen them pasted on your Instagram and Facebook feeds, pictures of beautiful serene mountain tops with some epic phrase or quote to “inspire” you to get moving and get happy and get living. Now, on the surface these all seem like harmless gestures that make someones day, but I sat down and analyzed this, maybe a bit more than one should, but analyzed enough to seek guidance and answers from professionals within the psychology and therapy world and here is my conclusion to the phenomenon known as
Let me first start out by saying I was and still am (slightly) a fan of these memes because sure, I like to have a boost every now and then and it’s nice to see something like this just at the right time when I needed it, but I’ve also come to many conclusions (Kind of like Smykowski in Office Space) to decipher through this and come to a very raw and bold truth.
I sat down and spoke to a Psychologists about a month ago and talked to her about several things in my life that I wanted to work on, that I am tired of repeating and want to develop better habits to move my life forward.
She asked me bluntly “What do you find yourself gravitating towards when you read?” I thought for a moment and said “Well, I’m always reading something in the training world, financial world and self help world” “Oh okay great. So, let’s talk about the self help books and blogs and articles that you read. Why do you feel you gravitate towards those so much?” “Well, I just feel like there is something missing in my life that I have not quite got a grasp on” “I see. So, Mike. Let me ask you. Of all these self help books you read, and all the knowledge you are accumulating, how is that working out for you?”
Now, I’m a tell it like I see it type of guy and this kind of knocked me off my feet. “Well shit! It’s obviously not helping me too much because I’m sitting here across from you right?” “Well, no, it’s a great thing that you want to educate yourself and feel inspired by these things, but with all of these words there needs to be an action, without the action, they are just words right?”
This was my ahhh haaaaaaaaa “Castanza” moment and I have not looked at a blog/meme/book the same.
We in society need things to fill the voids in our lives that we are not happy about, and we “vent” frustrations to our social media world which is a blessing and a curse. For example, last year I totally had something of a emotional breakdown and posted a lot of my personal shit on Facebook etc, and it got me no where. Posting one meme after another to “inspire” people but being a martyr to the words I was writing to help others put me in a worse emotional state.
We all feed each others egos with “likes” and inspiring comments even though deep down we just want to be honest, the world does not shine light to honesty. For example, when someone says “Day 1 of the new me starts today, I’m so happy and inspired to lose weight and make great changes. Here we go” By Day 20, those posts are long gone and they are back to square one. I say and speak this because I have lived it and been this person so don’t think I’m a soul-less prick, I am just saying what most people don’t have the guts to say.
Think about it for a second.
Think about your friends that post motivational memes and words of inspiration.
Its’ awesome right? Cool…
But now think about their habits and daily lives that you know the ins and outs of. Are they really living this portrayal of their online persona? Or are they simply looking for “likes” and false motivation through social media?
Everyone is inspired by stories of someone down in the dumps who has clawed their way to the top, but 95% of our population could be given the exact blueprint to financial freedom, to weight loss bliss, and true happiness and nobody would do a fucking thing about it because it’s too much work. If I told you that the keys to optimal health revolved around eating more vegetables you would look at me with a blank stare and say something like “It’s not that easy. I need prescriptions”
Yes, that’s exactly what you need, a prescription to an early grave.
Our society is completely ass backwards and our minds are so desensitized to what the truth actually is, and when we receive that truth and the keys to the palace, we choose not to do anything with it. We choose to complain rather than resolve. We think things are impossible when it’s rationale.
So now when I see these posts and “inspiring” quotes, it does nothing for me on the emotional level. All it does is inspire me to cruise through my news feed to the next post.
Before you seek for a quote to change your life, seek for internal awareness and ask yourself the honest and brutally honest questions that you need for yourself to dig yourself out of the hole you feel you are in. No amount of blog posts and positive memes will do a god damn thing for you until you understand you as a person and why you are holding yourself back from achieving whatever it is that you are seeking.
Life is not easy, but when you start to unravel the things you are truly unhappy with, and realize that it all starts and ends with you, life becomes a lot easier sorting through the bs and getting to the roots of your true happiness.